The Way to Love, Anthony de Mello

• Those who most fear to die are the ones who most fear to live. That in running away from death we are running away from life. 177.

• If you want to know what it means to be happy, look at a flower, a bird, a child; they are perfect images of the kingdom. For they live from moment to moment in the eternal now with no past and no future. They are spared the guilt and anxiety that so torment human beings and they are full of the sheer joy of living, taking delight not so much in persons or things as in life itself. As long as your happiness is caused or sustained by something or someone outside of you, you are still in the land of the dead. The day you are happy for no reason whatsoever, the day you find yourself taking delight in everything and in nothing, you will know that you have found the land of unending joy called the kingdom. 161-162.
• To find the kingdom is the easiest thing in the world but also the most difficult. Easy because it is all around you and within you, and all you have to do is reach out and take possession of it. Difficult because if you wish to possess the kingdom you may possess nothing else. You must drop all inward leaning on any person or thing, withdrawing from them forever the power to thrill you, or excite you, or to give you a feeling of security or well being. Contrary to what your culture and religion have taught you, nothing, but absolutely nothing can make you happy. Things and people can't really give you a single minute of happiness. They can only offer you a temporary thrill, a pleasure that initially grows in intensity, then turns into pain if you lose them and into boredom if you keep them. Think of the numberless persons and things that so excited you in the past. 162-163.

• Every painful event contains in itself a seed of growth and liberation. A simple truth of life that most people never discover: Happy events make life delightful but they do not lead to self-discovery and growth and freedom. That is reserved to the things and persons and situations that cause us pain. 157.

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